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Have you seen the movie EVENING, with Vanessa Redgrave? It was in the theatres earlier this month. Ohhhh, what a movie. After this rare gem of a story on screen was over, clumps of people, well, women, couldn’t get out of their seats. A mother and her teenage daughter sat sobbing, others just sat stunned. It was into five or more minutes before my friend Sylvia and I got up and left, leaving others still glued to their seats. I suggested to one clump of women that I could stay and continue the message with a retreat! They thought that was a great idea!

If you haven’t seen it, make sure you do or rent it as soon as it comes out. And, men, no – it’s not a chick flick. It’s about real life and dying and living and wondering, in our very human way, if we did the right things in our past with the options we faced.

It is impossible to make a mistake. Each and every moment offers us a choice to make a decision, an opportunity to learn and experience life . . . no matter what the outcome.

I’ve never liked hearing that “life” or “planet earth is a school” and “we’re just here to learn.” Maybe it’s how I was raised in a not so happy gradeschool environment. I “learned” there are lots of teachers, in this case nuns, who shouldn’t have been teachers, or nuns.

To me, life is just stuff happening. If you take ego and irrational guilt and shame and fear of rejection out of the picture, we’re just thinking, conscious creatures wandering around evolving at some uncalculable rate. We get to choose at each moment what we believe is true for us and what that means in what we are going to explore and experience due to those beliefs, choices and subsequent actions. The importance and value we put on anything is our choice at that moment. Everyone is different, so we create a grand variance of values and importance on people, things, real estate, art, music, money, lifestyle, sex, fashion, looks and so on.

I just know, that when I remember that “there are no mistakes,” I am much more peaceful and don’t feel so much like a flunking student.

How would your life experience be different with the belief ”there are no mistakes?”

©2007 Kim Wolinski, MSW “Dr. DeClutter”  Stress, Change and Organizational Skills Expert   www.DrDeClutter.comEditors and publishers are free to reprint blog articles as long as it is reprinted in its entirety and the signature line remains intact.