Do you glaze over (eyes and brain) when you get too much information at once?
Maybe it’s you who says too much in one conversation and trance others out? Women are especially blamed for this when talking to men! Women think and talk faster then men, but not always in quality thoughts and conversation. However, we tend to process out-loud more this way.
SOLUTION: THE 30 SECOND RULE
Learn the 30 Second Rule when communicating to 1) be heard, and 2) to not overwhelm the listener’s brain so that they can’t hear you.
As a speaker, I talk fast and a lot, but I talk in “nuggets” and “capsules”, “steps” and “techniques” so that though there’s a lot of information, it’s delivered in little memorable and meaningful, understandable and succint packets and “take home points.”
BOOK: Words Can Change Your Brain
In their book Words Can Change Your Brain: 12 Conversation Strategies to Build Trust, Resolve Conflict, and Increase Intimacy, Andrew Newberg M.D. and Mark Robert Waldman say that “sometimes it feels as if the more we talk, the less we are heard.”
Newberg says that “the brain can only handle up to four or five “nuggets” or “chunks” of information at a time. That’s about 30 seconds worth of talking.
You can change this by being more succinct and brief with your ideas so that the listener can really hear you and then respond intelligently because they could process the information. Give a nugget and stop. Let them hear you, process it and then respond.