How to Be Happier Instantly
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“Happiness is a choice,” said Abraham Lincoln, as have many more before and after his time.
Do people, circumstances and life bring you down?
One way to choose to be happier when you’re around Debbie Downer or others who may push your irritation buttons, or situations you are experiencing that are frustrating you is to ramp up your mental filters.
We are programmed by others and outer experiences throughout our lives to perceive events, situations, people, places, things and feelings as good or bad, happy or sad, energizing or depleting. These beliefs create mental filters through which we begin to see life most of the time. Most people don’t realize this process is happening as it is so unconscious, but moreover, they don’t realize that they have control over these filters.
You have control over these filters as soon as you realize a) that you have them, and b) that you can change them any time you please.
It’s not easy at first, but over time and practice you’ll strengthen your mental “filter muscles” and will be able to literally filter out conversations and situations that are not pleasing or are toxic and destructive to your mental health.
When someone is being negative – and you can’t immediately get out of the situation – selectively filter out the negativity by choosing to hear and see and feel only the positive.
An extreme example of this is being stuck in a prison. This can surely be a hard life and experience of course, but think what you can selectively filter for the positive that can bring light and joy into your mind, thoughts and experience? Is it colors or sunshine in the room, a hum that can be pleasing to your mind and body for relaxation purposes, or the feel of a fabric or other item you can touch.
The truth is that we are all prisoners in our own minds when we do not see the beauty and positive aspects of life all around us.
Look around your room or environment now and see only those things that bring you joy and peace.
Go outside and do the same.
On your next drive look for things that are lovely and make you feel good.
“Success is getting what you want;
happiness is wanting what you get.”
~ Anonymous
Real happiness is choosing to be happy, no matter what!
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