Stop Resisting “What Is”

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Resisting “what is” is exhausting. Wouldn’t you agree?

We can’t change a lot of things that happen every second. Like the weather, other people, the government, other countries, our squirrely thoughts and emotions and so much more. But boy, do we ever try!

And, to what end?

What are the real results of all of our resisting life? No good, but a lot of stress, frustration, anger, depression, angst, blame and other negative emotions and activity.

“To offer no resistance to life is to be in a state of grace, ease, and lightness.”

~ Eckhart Tolle


Changing a few things in our thinking can make a world of difference and make life much easier to enjoy.

For some people it will mean telling their ego that they don’t have to be right, and no one need be wrong.

For others, it will be letting go of the past.

And, for others, it will be about grieving what was or will never be.


It can take everything you’ve got to let go of things that you judge are wrong or bad and want them to change. But, 99.999% won’t.

“Of course there is no formula for success except, perhaps,

an unconditional acceptance of life and what it brings.”

~ Arthur Rubinstein

Our best bet is to learn to flow with and not fight life. Flow with what is right in this moment; your life, health, finances, relationships, job, neighbors, plans, goals, etc., etc.


Otherwise, you are at war with things that most likely will not be different, no matter how much resistance to the change or outcomes you give it. And, no matter how “right” you are.

So, unless you are Gandhi, who’s “passive” resistance changed a country and affected the world, here are a few more suggestions for change, to stop resisting and flow.


    1.  Change only your thoughts and thinking about what is.

    2.  Change only your choices and decisions about what you are doing today and each day to come.

    3.  Question everything, but don’t resist it.

    4.  Vote with your feet! Get out of situations that are truly harmful to you or others.

    5.  Revision your life as easy, flowing, in harmony and enjoyable.

    6.  Choose to be around people who are happy and flow in life.

“You don’t get to vote on what is. Have you noticed?”

~ Byron Katie

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One Response to “Stop Resisting “What Is””

  1. Randy Machida Says:

    Thank you for the stimulating article. A useful tip may be to slow down, and actually take the time to look at what you are doing from additional individuals perspective, then you may make what you’re creating even better!

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