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Yes, it’s still January, soooo it’s still the New Year and there’s still time to redecide your New Year’s Resolutions, Goals, changes, etc. But, you’ll have to be “still” in order to do this for yourself!  

I’m going to just jump right into what I want to tell you about to help your jump back into your life . . . as 2012 is here and rolling right on, with or without us!  

What kind of New Year’s Resolutions Setter and Keeper are you?

We tend to fall into one of 5 categories when it comes to New Year’s Resolutions:
   1.  You’ve set your goals and you’re off to a great start doing them. Congratulations!
   2.  You’ve not decided on any yet, but you want to refresh some areas of your life – probably the same areas you’ve been trying to refresh for years.
   3.  You’ve set them, but have already dumped them.
   4. You are limping along sporadically taking action on your NYR’s, but mostly are feeling bad about yourself that you are not keeping your committments to yourself better and “perfectly.”
   5. You don’t care and don’t believe in NYR’s!

Wherever you land in these categories, I’m here to give you permission to stop feeling bad, wrong or guilty! Yea! And to share a secret about NYR’s that will set you free to be, do and have a great start of your New Year.  

The Dirty Little Secret and Truth About January and New Year’s Resolutions
I’ve been spreading “The Truth” about NYR’s in my presentations all month already. This truth is especially important, and true, for women.  

I just finished my 8 weeks telecourse on Holiday Stress Be Gone and the last of 3 live calls was focused on this issue. The feedback has been great as it registers for my participants how they can get and stay focused and step into the New Year with pride and peace in themselves. (By the way, I’ll be setting this program up for self-study soon and you can take it too!)  

So, here it is. The dirty little secret and truth you need to know to relax, breathe and enjoy January for what it is. This is especially important and true for women.  

The truth is . . . when you are in charge of the holidays and all that they can entail, you’re hardly in a place come January 1st to jump into your new year and change gears!  

Some people haven’t even gotten back home by January 1st, and/or their travel bags are still sitting in the dining room packed . . . and starting a new year of clutter and guilt.  

If you’re still putting away holiday decorations, haven’t even touched your returns and thank you cards are still sitting in a pile waiting to be written (and you’ve now missed the postage increase that happens today!), you have no brain-bytes left to focus on NYR’s! Right?!  

So, here are 6 Keys to get back on track by the end of January. 

How to Get Ready to Set and Go on Your NYR’s

1. Put all of your holidays stuff away.

2. Finish returns and thank you’s, etc.

3. Get “into” January completely.

4. This weekend, the last weekend in January, sit down and write out 3-5 things you want to change in your life over the next 11 months. (Not more than 3-5 that you can realistically accomplish or you’ll sabotage yourself.)

5. Don’t even start your NYR’s List yet! Just “prepare” for them by the end of the month; perhaps you need to get supplies, tools, call someone, get your daytimer scheduled ahead, join a class, do some paperwork,  etc. 

6. Then, by February 1st, be ready to start your New Year and Resolutions with calm, peace and focus!

Feel better? I do! And from the feedback I’ve been getting again this year, I know other’s are feeling much better too.  

Blissings upon you and your New Year! Be, do and have the year you really choose, one day at a time. 

“Making resolutions is a cleansing ritual of self assessment
and repentance that demands personal honesty and,
ultimately, reinforces humility.
Breaking them is part of the cycle.”
~ Eric Zorn, Newspaper Editor
 
And… join in the celebration of  The Year of the Dragon!
 

Mental Health care increases 30-35% during January and early February.

Over the past few decades, typically 80% of psychiatric and psychological problems are related to marriage and family, and the rest to professional and job conflicts. Now, we can add major financial debocals and recession and, and, and . . .

Here are some simple TO DO TIPS to manage post-holiday blues. 

. . . eat right.

. . . get plenty of rest.

. . . exercise regularly.

Do set realistic goals:

. . . organize your time.

. . . organize your space, stuff and things.

. . . make lists (use a notebook, not little pieces of paper!)

. . . prioritize.

. . . make a budget and follow it.

. . . set New Years Resolutions and Goals on which you can really follow-through and succeed.

. . . find ways to simplify your life on a daily basis (the “blues” can be directly related to feeling overwhelmed and getting little done on TO DO lists that are unrealistic to begin with.)

Let go of the past, embrace the new present and future.

Allow yourself to feel sad, lonely or melancholy when these feelings arise, these are normal feelings, particularly during and after the holidays – and before Valentine’s Day.

• Do something for someone else.
• Enjoy activities that are free.
• Spend time with family and friends, people who care about you.
• Spend time with new people or a different set of friends or family.
• Contact someone with whom you have lost touch.
• Give yourself a break: plan to prepare (or buy) one special meal, purchase one special gift, and take in one special event.
• Complete small jobs and projects, or let them go.
• Start a Gratitude Journal. Daily write 3-5 things you are grateful for.

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~ Paula, School Teacher, Flint, MI

Have you ever ruined a perfectly good weekend or holiday by having expectations that just would not, could not and didn’t get met? These expectations are of ourselves and others. We do it all the time.

So, let’s not do that anymore, okay?

1. Decide what you truly want out of the weekend.

2. Resist making an exhaustive wish list, instead, pinpoint one or two things you’re really after.

PROJECT

a. Be realistic and accept that not every project can be finished by sundown the last day before work or school resumes.

b. If you have a project to do and really want it done by the end of the weekend, plan it out ahead of time. Get everything you’ll need to accomplish the task. Plan your time. Remind or ask others if you want help.

c. Schedule uninterrupted time.

d. Stick to your plan.

ACTIVITIES and EVENTS

a. Again, be realistic.

b. Not everyone wants to do what you may want, or can’t. Plan ahead and invite, ask and tell others the plan and see if it works for them.

c. Is there drive time? Plan it in!

d. Is money involved? Plan it in.

NOTHING

a. Planning to do “nothing” still needs a plan! Plan out your schedule, food, phone or computer time, etc. so that you don’t waste minutes and hours of time and days by doing what you’d normally do, or futsing around feeling guilty!

b. Write it out! What does “nothing” look like to you? Identify it and then do it!

Whatever you plan to do this weekend or any weekend or holiday, get ahead of it and really enjoy it. No regrets next week!!

Flexing your ‘No thanks’ muscle  is something you want to practice, practice, practice to get it big and strong!

ORGANIZING INNER CLUTTER AND CLEARING OUT OLD PROGRAMMING

This tip is about organizing your thoughts and beliefs about your money and spending, buying and lying – to yourself about your money, spending and buying! It will help you to

a) keep your sanity,

b) keep your money in your bank, and

c) to save time and limit problems later.

“YOU’LL SAVE 10 %!”

How many times have you been shopping in a department store and when you get to the cash register to pay the cashier says, (has to say, as they are required by management to and get commissions for getting you to sign up) “You can save 10% on  your purchase today by signing up for our credit card!” Don’t go there!

Organizing your mind and thoughts about how you save money and how you use credit, get “good deals” and such is very important to do before you hear that siren song one more time that may likely dash you upon the rocks!

There are many ways to say “no thanks”, it’s good to practice up so that your ‘No Thanks’ Muscle ??is a lean, mean ‘No Thank You’ machine!

Here is a well thought out list of why you want to say “No Thanks” in different situations. Peter Bregman, author of 18 Minutes: Find Your Focus, Master Distraction, and Get the Right Things Done, says we need to clear out our mind clutter and place our attention where it matters most, which requires three steps:

1. Know your focus.

This is critical and rarely done well. Knowing exactly where to place your attention is a challenge, especially given the barrage of nonstop offers, opportunities, requests, and needs that compete against each other.

2. Sustain your focus.
Knowing where you want to place your attention is one thing. Actually placing and keeping it there day after day is another.

3. Protect your focus.
Defending yourself from being distracted by mind clutter is a moment-by-moment discipline. You need to become a master at choosing when to say, “no thanks,” even when it seems like there’s no downside to saying, “why not?” Because there’s almost always a downside.
See Rick’s NO THANK YOU list  to get a few nuggets of gold!

For an extra clever helper, to keep “plastic” in its place, use MyPocketSafe!

 Hopi Elder Prophecy

(It is questioned regarding who and when it was written, but it is good to read and remember no matter.)

You have been telling people that this is the Eleventh Hour, now you must go back and tell the people that this is the Hour. And there are things to be considered. . . .

Where are you living?

What are you doing?

What are your relationships?

Are you in right relation?

Where is your water?

Know your garden.

It is time to speak your truth.

Create your community.

Be good to each other.

And do not look outside yourself for your leader.

Then he clasped his hands together, smiled, and said, “This could be a good time! There is a river flowing now very fast. It is so great and swift that there are those who will be afraid. They will try to hold on to the shore. They will feel they are being torn apart and will suffer greatly. Know the river has its  destination. The elders say we must let go of the shore, push off into the middle of the river, keep our eyes open, and our heads above the water.

And I say, see who is in there with you and celebrate. At this time in history, we are to take nothing personally, least of all ourselves. For the moment that we do, our spiritual growth and journey come to a halt.

The time of the one wolf is over. Gather yourselves!

Banish the word ‘struggle’ from your attitude and your vocabulary. All that we do now must be done in a sacred manner and in celebration.

We are the ones we’ve been waiting for.

–

Other guides and prophecies by Hopi and other tribes:

http://www.matrixmasters.com/takecharge/hopi-prophecy.html

http://www.angelfire.com/oh2/peterr/annex/HopiSpeaks.html

http://www.welcomehome.org/rainbow/prophecy/prophecies.html

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LOTS OF WEEKEND TIME THIS MONTH!

You don’t need the excuse for a holiday to get out of the office and enjoy yourself! But, it’s nice to have one this month in case you do!

But . . . check this out! This year you have lots more options for “weekends” than ever before! . . . unless you lived 823 years ago!

Yup, July has 5 Fridays, 5 Saturdays and 5 Sundays this year! This happens once every 823 years.

So, no excuses for not having a weekend to play this month!

2011 TIDBITS

Plus . . . 2011 is giving us four unusual dates. Maybe they hold extra good energy in them. There’s two of these dates left this year. When they come around in November be aware of them: slow down a bit and feel it, meditate, sit and look at the sunrise or sunset, journal, set new goals, or dance (naked if you like!) Never know!!

    1/1/11

    1/11/11

    11/1/11

    11/11/11   

2011 MIND-BOGGLER! 

Take the last two digits of the year in which you were born – now add the age you will be this year.

The results will be 111 for everyone in whole world.  WHOA!!!!

Enjoy this month for all you can squeeze out of it!! It’s my birthday month, I always do!
 

(Might be a commercial linked onto this first) 

Don’t let time slip by this summer, or any season without slowing down to make quality time with family – especially if you have children.

Time goes by so quickly when they’re small. Enjoy every moment!

Great job, Trace!